Proverbs 12:25

Anxiety in a man's heart weighs him down,

but a good word makes him glad. (Proverbs 12:25 ESV)

This verse makes me think and reflect on the past weeks lesson. To do your husband only good, not evil, all the days of your life.
What happens with the woman always nagging and complaining to her man? She certainly brings him no goodness in doing such things. Do you know a woman like that? Are you a woman like that? What can you do to fix such things?
I have a story to tell on this one, so here goes. I had a friend who relied on me a lot and we saw each other every day. When I first met her she would complain a little or say something that brought her down, and I would try to lift her spirits or offer up a solution to her problems. It soon became apparent that this was not what she wanted, she just wanted to complain and have a sour outlook on herself. I could handle her in smaller amounts but as time went on she found herself alone with no other friend but myself and so she started spending more and more time with me. I tried, very hard, to be accommodating, but there was only so much I could handle. It was hard hearing how someone's not any good at anything or how horrible things are. A person usually starts believing something after being told so many times. I was starting to be negative as well. My disposition faltered and I found myself saying some of the same negative things about myself that she ha said about herself. Well, this got me really depressed. Suddenly my friend had to go away, back to her family. My spirits almost instantly lifted in spite of not getting to see a dear friend on a constant basis. That's when I realized that as much as we had acted the parts of best friends she wasn't what was best for me. I had to cut her off from myself for my own good... My own sanity. I had become a great big ball of negativity and I didn't want to live like that anymore.
Don't get me wrong, I miss her and still think about her, but I know I can't lift the phone and call her (or accept her calls) because I am weak and will fall into the depressing trap of negativity. And that is not what I want my kids growing up around.
Whenever I start to rush a text to complain to my husband I have to set down my phone and think that that is not something I want to bring into his day, especially while he is at work dealing with his own problems. Negativity is like a poison, and every day I work hard at not letting it seep further into my body and contaminate my family.
Don't get me wrong, I still complain to my husband, but I try not to do it while he is at work or right when he gets home. If it's something that is really bothering me I will take him aside and talk to him. Otherwise I wait till the kids are asleep when we can both share our ups and downs of the day. Always try an have ups with the downs and always be open to listening to him as well.